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writes:HiI play in a band and have been involved in music for many years; it is my life and all my energy goes into it. Recently, another bandmate (female) and I (male) have developed feelings for each other; through hanging out, sharing problems, enjoying the same things and being a bit sexually frustrated! We recently met to talk about what to do and ended up kissing. We can't be together or 'have something on the side' because it'll totally ruin the band we've worked so hard on and which is showing so much promise. We both feel the same way about each other and love the band equally too! It feels like more than just a one-off and I don't know what to do. Anyone been in a similar situation? It feels awful! Help! Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe're together now. All we have to do is tell the band... so hard. Band dynamics are like no other situation! You won't understand unless you've been in one! But thank you all the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): Why will it ruin your band? I don't understand the problem here.
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reader, Squirtle1706  +, writes (27 January 2009):
 I think you should do it. if you two break up you will just be involved bandwise. But you sound like the two of you will last a while, maybe longer then your band? just be gentle with her
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