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writes: Hi all. Me and my gf of 2 years had a very messy argument the other night, and I stupidly said that she was as good as dumped. At the time I felt like I meant it, but I made a genuine mistake. After a space of about a week apart, I've come to realise what she means to me, everything. I also realised why we faced such difficulties, she was feeling hurt because I'd constantly nagged her, and I felt hurt as she doesn't have as much time for me now as she used to - her other commitments are plentiful, and get more and more by the day. I was too blinded by feeling hurt and rejected myself that I foolishly passed these negative feelings onto her, making her out to be an awful Girlfriend, which she most definitely is not.Anyway, out of the blue last night she contacted me, asking me if I wanted to go out for a drink. I eagerly said yes, my heart was thumping as I was so nervous. We'd spoke quite breifly before this (about 2 days ago), when she said she needed time and space to sort her head and feelings out - which was not a bad idea in my eyes, after all, I figure our problems all started because neither of us took a step back to look at why all our problems had occurred.We met up last night, and we talked, got very upset, she told me all that she felt, and I told her what I'd realised. Both of us are sure that neither of us realised what we were doing, and neither of us would hurt one another intentionally - and that more importantly, we love each other so deeply. She said however, that she still needed to think about things, and didn't want to get my hopes up in case her answer would be no.However, after we left the bar, we ended up hugging an awful lot, and kissing quite passionately. Although I initiated the hugging, we both started the kiss mutually, i.e. I wasn't pushing my luck and she went along with it, she wanted it too and a smile was on her face as we pulled away. At the very end of the night, as I was getting out of her car, she said "come here", and as I leant in she planted a lovely kiss on me. She still said she needed space, but I've genuinely learnt a lot of lessons from this.My question I guess is do you guys think she'll make the right decision, and come back to us? I know her inside and out, and she's the most trustworthy woman I've ever met - She's never been one to play games, either with me or anyone in her life, so I can only believe that what happened last night was 100% genuine.Should I wait for her to come to me, and do you think we'll be fine?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): Yes dear, giver her space but send her a sweet note occasionally-letting her know you love her. You guys sound like you will be fine..she just needs time on her own. She does sound like a 'keeper' especially when you say 'she is the most trustworthy' woman you have ever met. She sounds like a rare gem. Good luck and all the best.
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