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writes:Ello everyone.Thank you for taking the time to read this.I'm not sure that this is something that belongs here but then again I believe this is the best place to come for advices. I have asked and answered many and I really love that everyone shares with different answers.What I would like advice on is pretty weird. I want another child. I have one who just turned 3. I am having problems with her growing up so fast (I'm not saying I am the "mom" who likes the infant stage only) I am very excited for her to get older. Very excited. -Yes I know that I am young but this isn't for you to judge just to give advice-I have a stable job,car,house. I have been able to take care of everything I want and need. Without any problems of will I have enough for bills.Just who I am in a relationship with does not. He only makes 20cents a min. That's if he gets up to do it. (Not saying he is worthless in any way) He is scared of bringing a child in this world. He feels that he won't do a great job as a father.That's it. He knows he can get a great job if he just focuses. Altho he is great with my daughter. She calls him "Daddy, Father" All the time. I just... Ugh Am I in the wrong for asking him to get over that fear and try. Or should I really wait. I am sorry If I made no sense at all.Thank you everyone. Reply to this Question
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reader, xXJDXx  +, writes (8 August 2010):
I think that's down to you as an individual, problem is you can't really force him into giving you a baby, if YOU feel you can support another child and really want one go for it as long as you can convince your man to do it, have you truley spoke to him about how much it means to you?
And in my opinion with what you've already acheivef in your life an addition to the family can only make you happier right? I'm 22 with 3 children, I get critersized daily but we're happy, I can provide everything they need. So if it's what you want huni go for it :)
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (8 August 2010):
You Have got plenty of time. when you have to think about having another child! is because you are not ready? enjoy each other get to know each other! and yes let him learn how to be a daddy w/ your daughter! and let him grow into it and take his time don't push someone into having a child who is not ready! sounds like you are the one who is wanting another child. you need to have a stable relationship! w/ one another a solid foundation, and get to know one another maybe he wont be a good father? just sit back and watch him w/ your daughter! and let their relationship blossom, and when you don't push or keep talking about it he will have peace of mind to think about it on his own and he will come to you! and sometimes men aren't ready maybe? he doesn't think you are ready for another child by watching you w/ your daughter not saying you are a bad mother it's just a Question! and maybe he doesn't know if this relationship is going any further? some men are very weird like that in a good way. they just want everything to be right and feel right before jumping into having kids tying the knott i mean it's a forever thing? slow down and enjoy each other and your Lil one!!! get to know each other (Actions speaks louder then words)
Best Wishes!
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