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*rokenforgood
writes:I am in love with my best friend and he loves me unconditionally but I am forbidden to marry outside my own culture/religion (we're both young adults now). He gave up finally after 3years right when I realized I was actually in love. He still cares for me but it's forbidden. What should I do - how can I get over this or are there any solutions??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): You could, well, switch to another religion. Its not like there is a shortage to choose from.
Especially Christianity. If your sect is too strict or draconian in their relationship laws, then stuff them and go to one that isn't.
We do not live in the dark ages anymore. No one, I repeat NO ONE, has the right to tell you who can and can;t marry or have a relationship with. Least of some overly religious nutjob-zealots.
Any religion that would seek to stop two consenting adults, who bare no blood or familiarial relations, from persuing what is their lawful and genetic right to persue, love and happiness, is not worth following.
If your family insist of being so close-minded, then I'm afraid its time to move apart from them as they deal in absolutes and a good person never deals in absolutes.
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reader, brokenforgood +, writes (31 May 2009):
brokenforgood is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to the both of you and I completely agree with you on how this seems (and is) unfair but I have no choice in the matter now. I would have had some choice but he let go and I can't go against my family and convince him at the same time.
I talked via IM with him a few weeks ago and kept it strictly friendly because I didn't want to open up healing wounds. But a few days ago I contacted him again and he said he was busy so I thought nothing of it. The next day when I tried again this time he told me he was going to sleep and that's when I realized he didn't want to talk to me either. More so he was avoiding me. Honestly I'm hurt and confused because the unanswered questions and misunderstandings still exist between us so I'm unable to find closure.
Thanks again for your replies! :)
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (27 May 2009):
 why are you forbidden?
you are both young adults why can't you do what you want?
it's your life your happiness.
it's a bit unfair that you've been told you can't be with someone because of a different culture or religion...
to get over this well i guess all you can do is just try and move on find someone who isn't "forbidden" apparently...
i still think that this is a bit unfair on you when if it's someone you love it shouldn't matter whom they are or what they are like so long as they make you happy that should only matter to your family and yourself.
If you need to talk further please don't hesitate to message me i'm more than happy to help :)
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