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writes: I have a big problem. I am in love with someone who says we should be friends. On the other hand I have someone who cares for me and he knows how I feel about the other man. I don't care for him. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, MitchellTurner +, writes (12 October 2005):
First off, ask yourself this. Are you willing to let life pass you by while you wait for someone that only wants to be friends? You know, it's sad to say, (cause i have been through similar situations many times), but when they say that, it usually is just them trying to say, in the nicest way possible, that they really don't want a relationship with, at all. And that rarely changes. Don't waste your life. Talk to the other person, go places, but make sure they know you're not going to be getting serious with anyone right now, as your are hoping the other person will change thier mind, but you aren't going to miss out on having fun in the meantime. Eventually, your heart will get tired of being used and a bused by the one that only want's to be friends, and you might find yourself liking this other person, or, maybe, (and rarely, i'll say again), the one you like might change thier mind. Just don't hold your breath. In short, life is short. Live your life. Don't lose out on what other pleasures life has to offer, just because of one person. It isn't worth it. If your car gets stuck in the mud, and you cannot get it out, what do you do? Call a wrecker? Get out and walk? Bottom line is, you find another way to achieve your goals, right?
It seems to me that you are stuck in this relationship. Call the wrecker and while cleaning the mud from your life, be happy that your not still stuck.
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