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The attraction seemed mutual, but suddenly he's ignoring me!

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Question - (12 October 2005) 6 Answers - (Newest, 5 July 2007)
A female United States, *ndersAmanda writes:

I'm 17 and he's 15. He's a freshman and I'm a junior. We've always liked each other and in these past few weeks we've come closer to each other. He's the perfect guy. Then, one day it all stopped. He stopped sitting next to me and saying hi to me in the hall. He would even come up behind me and cover my eyes and ask who it was. Then hug me. We had almost kissed but I didn't want to get too attached since I am only 17. All I want to know is why is he ignoring me? What did I do? and if I didn't do anything then why is he ignoring me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007):

the same thing happened to me-- TWICE. both times a guy was really into me when i wasn't into him and then when i started to like him back he acted like i didn't exist! one of the times the situation was just like yours 15 and 17.

whatever you do- do not chase him. do not ask him about it. be nice to him by all means but do not be phased by his ignoring business. some guys just enjoy flirting or mb he thought by you not kissing him, you rejected him. if you like him (age doesn't matter!! if he's mature for his age who cares?) then do not nag him about it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2005):

a freshmen? its not your fault at all guys that age just are in relationships for the lust part,and notn else. honestly i think he is ignoring you cause, he knows his place. he is a freshmen and you are a cool junior. i bet he thinks he cant have you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2005):

i have the same problem too._ so i just acted like we are just friends and went out with a other guy so i guess he is just not mature enough

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A reader, Cambelina United Kingdom +, writes (12 October 2005):

It was a smart move not getting too attached initially and trying to take things slowly. Clearly, if this guy isn't mature enough to tell you what the problem is (causing his silent treatment towards you) then he is showing that he's certainly not mature enough to handle the responsibility of being in a serious relationship with you, and you don't need to be with someone who isn't able to treat you as you deserve.

He's is acting cowardly and proving that he has to grow up a bit. Girls mature faster than boys as it is, and you're already two years older than him. So, mentally, you're even older than that!

To me, if he isn't going to take the time to salvage what you could have has, then he's not worth your time or concern. Move on and forget him! Don't chase him, it will be degrading to you and he doesn't deserve to have someone chasing after him who he isn't even willing to speak to.

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A female reader, Stewart Terrace +, writes (12 October 2005):

Well what you do is ask him out right he might be getting bullied by his mates you never know Take care

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A male reader, LucidCupid +, writes (12 October 2005):

Simple answer;he's 15.His hormones are all over the place,whereas you as a girl are,emotionally speaking,a few years ahead of him in the maturity department.He will be getting the first tingles of sexual excitement,but he will also be very confused.His body will be changing and he may not be very confident in himself or his abilities just yet.When his hormones settle down,so will he,and he won't be sending such erratic signals.Take things slowly if you really like him,but don't think of him as the perfect guy.He has alot to learn about life and love,and he'll be one of many you'll meet along life's journey.Be friends first and see what happens.

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