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writes:how can i ask my boyfriend to seek some help, regarding his being abusive?i want to help him, but he already hitted me twice, at first i forgive him but again he repeated thesame, or else i dont have any option just to leave him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): Let me say this. I have been in an emotionally draining abusive marriage for 13 years. The problem is in the beginning there are really bad days but there are some great days that balance out. Let me tell you as time goes on and you have kids you will feel more trapped. I wish i left my husband all those years ago, when I was young and could still make a life with someone else. The spark you feel will become anger towards him later on and how much he does not respect you. GET OUT NOW.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 You can't tell me he has done something very wrong, if he does not think that hitting a person is VERY WRONG.
He hit twice, He will do it again. If you told him that he has done something wrong, chances are he is going get mad at you. And he will hit you again, for making him mad.
Please leave him. Now. You deserve to be treated with respect. Couples have differences, arguments, "fights", debates, that is common and to be expected. Some do it more often than others. But hitting is unaccepted. It is an abuse against your rights to be respected as partner. You are not a punching bag.
Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): Unfortunately this pattern of behaviour will not change and will most likely get worse. Show some respect for yourself and leave. You will also be making a statement for all the other women out there who need to know it is totally unacceptable. Good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): When we were dating, my wife told me that if I ever hit her, even once, that was the END. Not that I was ever inclined to do so, but she was absolutely right. And I tell my daughters the same.
He's hit you more than once. LEAVE HIM. Run away, never have anything to do with him ever again.
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