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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I am experiencing something new and confusing to me and thought I might seek out some advice from strangers who can perhaps more clearly judge the situation without being biased. I've been with my current partner for nearly 4 years. We live together and are happy. I have had my share of bad relationships in the past and am happy to be with someone who understands me, who is sensitive to my needs. However, recently, I've been developing feelings for someone at work. I don't even work with the guy, he's in a different department alltogether. And before several months ago, I didn't even know him. I don't know what it is, we get along, we chat and laugh. He lingers around sometimes just to talk to me and I find myself waiting for him to log in so we can chat over the internet. Thing is, I know it's not physical, he's not the best looking guy I know, and yet, there's just something there. There's a connection, either mental or spiritual or whatever, and I've been trying to figure out what it is to better understand what's going on.Because at the same time, I love my partner, sure we've had our ups and downs, but we love each other and he cares deeply for me. So why this? And if it's a question of needs are not being met that the other could possibly meet, I have no clue what those needs could be. All I know is I love my partner, but I am also greatly taken by my friend at work.Any advice on understanding my situation better will be appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (31 May 2011):
try to get rid of these feelings because it well eventually grow and it would lead you to either cheating
or breaking up with your curent bf
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): I say think hard about those feelings. How long have you know this Co worker of yours? What if you feel this but to him you're just another friendly person and nothing more? Aside from that. Are you really willing to lose 4 years of love or whatever for this new fellow and start all over again?
I say don't ruin the love you and your partner have established
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