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writes:Hi,So for months now I've been absolutely madly in love with a girl who I'm very good friends with... She's had a long term boyfriend who's just broken up with her, and I really want to tell her. Two problems:1. She's way out of my league.2. She's having sex with my one of my best friends. He assures me that it's no strings attached sex, that he doesn't mind what happens and that he's totally for me telling her, but still?So, do I tell her, risk a very painful let down, or leave it, and let my friend go for it?And if I do tell her, how on earth am I going to put it?Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): Try to simplify things. Do you want her to go out with you? Then, ask her out. In the worst case, she will say no. No big deal. It's the guy's job to get a no once in a while. You cannot wait for girls to ask you out all the time. If you don't ask you may regret for years. Believe me, not telling her could be worse than getting a no. And, she may say yes!, you never know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): I think if you want to tell her then you should, keeping the fact that you're in love with someone to yourself is pretty hard, but then being rejected is also pretty hard too! What makes you think that you're out of her league because with love, things like that sometimes just don't matter?
Does your friend have feelings for this girl? Because surely he would know that the fact that he is having sex with her and you're madly in love with her would hurt you somewhat!?
And do you talk to her much? Because that would make telling her easier as you could just put into a conversation how you have feelings for someone and you don't know if she could like you back. Then just drop hints that it's her.
Good Luck! Keep me updated!
xx Hope xx
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