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writes: I have a few problems...My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months, but on and off before that for about 3 years. Recently, he has gotten a new job in construction and he is always working in the city. Now, don't get me wrong, I am proud of him getting his new job and everything, but I never see him anymore. When we make plans to hang out after he gets out of work and after I get out of school, he never shows up, and when he does, he is stoned. I have told him many times that I don't like him smoking and I want him to stop, but I don't think he gets it. I just wish he would stop smoking pot, but I don't know how to get him to. Also, we only get to hang out on weekends mostly, and when that happens, he is always tired and he never talks to me. He is edgy and just quiet. It really bugs me. I have recently felt myself "falling out of love" with him, but everytime I bring myself to talking to him about maybe breaking up, I choke. I need some advice! Reply to this Question
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reader, missdee +, writes (25 September 2005):
If this man is not what you want and he won't stop after knowing how you feel about his habit then you should move on. You are uncomfortable with what he does and he is uncomfortable because you are always telling him about it.
Apparently the only way he will stop is if he wants to, no amount of talking or begging is going to make that happen. You have expressed your disapproval of this so your feelings are known.
He is probably not spending as much time with you because he is smoking pot and when he does he knows if he comes around you that will start fussing about it. The way I see it you got 2 choices, move on or accept him and his habits.
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