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writes:There's this guy that used to like me a lot and he was really serious about me but I wasn't ready for him. I just got out from a relationship and I was trying to move on. I wasn't ready but he convinced me to give him a chance. So after a month, I broke it off because I felt that it wasn't fair for us both knowing that part of me still was clinging to my ex. I told him that it was over. I didn't want to ask for more time because I thought that it'd be fair to break it off rather than asking for more time.He treated me very nice and really wanted to make it work. He even introduced me to his parents and they liked me a lot. I did not try to make anything work, I was still trying to move on. After 2 months had passed, I finally made up my mind and knew exactly what I want. I went and asked for him back. He said that he's sorry. He said that he moved on (he's with no one) and that hurt me so much.I'm finally ready to be in this with him but he's done. I know it was quite a gap, 2 almost 3 months, but I needed to be sure. I didn't want to jump right in when I was still confused.He still cares for me a lot as a friend but I'm hoping that just being his friend he might come around eventually. I really don't want to lose him and I want to go back. What do I do? Should I just keep hanging around hoping that he might come back? Is there anything I should do that make he want to come back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): Tell him that you want him back and this time you are here to stay.He is scared of being hurt again.If you love someone let them free if they come back they are yours or else they were never yours to come back-in the first place.All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 25
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): hey..im kind of in a similar situation. the truth is and im sorry if it hurts but..there's a possibility you guys will never get back together even if you just stay friends with him. I mean you could try..but i know its gunna be hard to put your feelings aside and just be friends. The way you look at it is..are you going to be ok with just being friends? I'm going through the same thing and you just don't want to set yourself up for disappointment and heartache. From what everyone tells me there's two things you can do: 1. you can be friends with him but you have keep you eyes open at the same time because you could meet someone else..it would probably be a good idea to not make yourself so avaliable either so he won't take you for granted or 2. just stop talking to him: cut off all ties and try to move on and later if he comes back and the feelings are mutual then its all good. hopefully everything works out for you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): Oh hun, thats tough! See other guys, try to move on but most importantly, have fun! If something is ment to happen between you two, it will happen. Its as simple as that. Now this whole moving on thing doesn't mean ou and him can't talk. Or hang out. If he liked you once, it could happen again. Things just need time :)
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