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writes:I am a college sophomore and decided to take a semester off. I moved in with my fiance but we have recently been having problems and I want to move out and be on my own again. My fiance says he feels like I'm abandoning the relationship and I don't care about him since when I move out he will not have anywhere to go. He broke a lease at his last apartment so he will not be able to get a new apartment on his own. Would I be selfish by just leaving and letting the chips fall where they may? The current apartment is in my name and I know I can't have two apartments in my name at the same time..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Have you tried to work things out with your fiance by talking over the problems (in a nonconfrontational way when both of you are calm and rational)? Or sought counselling? Do you even want to try any of this?
If you have made a good attempt and nothing has changed for the better and you are now (as you appear to be) at the point where you want to end your engagement, then perhaps you might be able to help him find a new place to live. Does he have a male friend(s) he could room with? Or possibly find a houseowner who has a room to let?
I'd say do what you can to assist him in finding someplace else to live, and after that, you can consider your relationship to be at an end........
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Well, he can find a roommate. And besides he needs to be independent. There is nothing wrong with wanting to move out. And you're not leaving him high and dry, he's a man and he shouldn't depend on you.
There are plenty of apartments that can give him a 2nd chance, they might require bigger deposit.
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