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writes:I know that by now I should be completely over her. Hell Have been going out, was seeing somebody else the whole deal. But for some reason I just can't get her out of my mind. It's been almost six months. After the break up she still came to my birthday and being desperate back then I even asked her if she wanted to spend valentines day with me. However while we where still together she got ear ring from a guy who was also the guy that she spent the night with before valentines day with me and about 3 weeks after the break up was in an official relationship with. So its pretty obvious that she cheated. However she wants to remain friends keeps call, and I know what she is trying to do - keep me as a back up, BS. She did have the balls to be honest to me about it. I am really thinking of calling her out on it. Nevertheless I love this girl and I would hate to lose her forever. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): my friend,giving her walking papers..she has crossed the line once and asked forgiveness it sounds like ,,but then
a second ..its time for you to move on..you seem like a great guy who does care..remember there is two kinds of women ..those who really want and those who really want to play..which one do you want..quanity versus quality..
me i want the best ....ive had the rest..
think about it....and remember..you may end up with something you cant give back one of these times with her.
you deserve the best ..change your mindset and move on..
champ...signed jj.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): Yeah its true, she probably is over it and i'm not quite there yet. But as long as I know that she was seeing somebody else under these circumstances, should I let her know that I know and for that reason it is difficult for me to trust her again?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (18 May 2009):
 well really you don't want to be treated as just a back up surely?
i mean it's unfair on you because it's like you'll build yourself up for more than just a back up until someone else comes along and then you're back to where you started.
why do that to yourself?
i mean she will know how you play you due to your feelings you'll have for her and still have for her and it's not fair.
if you want to stay in contact with her then sure go for it but as friends don't play on anything to get into anything more and make sure she doesn't take you for the fool and play on the feelings you've still got for her otherwise it'll never be a friendship.
Hope this helps.
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