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writes:My girlfriend used to be an everyday all the time pot smoker before I met her. She admitted it had alot to do with the people she was with and her boyfriend at the time. When I met her 3 years ago she said that she rarely did it anymore and really doesnt want to much anymore either. And in that time it has been fine, every once in a blue moon if at all type of thing. Well, she made a new friend in the last two weeks that likes to do that a lot and she hangs out with that person and other people that have a ready supply, so now she is kinda back on the pot wagon to the point where she would toke up by herself a lot lately. I can tell that it's changing her a little. I know that mostly she would get away from it if the people she was around didnt do it. She said when we met that she needed to get away from people like that. But now it's all around her again and im worried that because I don't do it then our relationship might suffer and I think its even already started to a little. So do I try to get her away from these people or do I have to just live with it? I mean, I know you cant make people do anything they dont want, be she even said that she didn't need to do it in the first place and we are getting married soon. I don't want that around us and our future kids. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, that makes sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): I think you have a right to ask her to keep it in check, especially if you are getting married and potentially having kids together. I would just say: I can't get serious about someone who smokes pot on a regular basis (you'll have to define "regular basis" or "at all"), and while I really care about you, I have reservations about marrying and having kids with someone who does that.
It's not an ultimatum, it's not a threat - you should just tell her how you feel. If she's serious about you she should make an effort. Good luck with it!
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