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writes: Hi all,I recently started contacting this girl from school. At first it was purely out of boredom and I was just looking for someone to hang out with. So we met up and even though it was for a short time, I found we had so much in common. Not in tastes but in interests. I could honestly say that I had an amazing time with her even though all we did was talk.We just graduated from high school, waiting until our terms begin, out of pure coincidence, we both start in January. We never really used to talk in school, I was pretty much the awkward kid and she was always the pretty girl but we shared the same circle of friends so there were times when we inevitably saw each other, went to parties where we would see each other but until a few weeks ago, I never thought about it much and now, I can't stop thinking about her. We met up time and time again and she's amazing! I feel like I've actually found a girl I can connect with (as cheesy as that may sound). She's really smart, elegant and friendly. She's the kind of girl I feel like I should be with because I know I'd treat her better than her other boyfriends and from what she's told me, she's had a pretty brutal relationship history. We pretty much only have less than four months before we have to leave to Uni but, I feel like, I'd be missing the chance to start something great. I don't know how she feels, if she would want to start dating.What should I do? Do I ask her on a date or do I just leave it alone and hope that I find some just as amazing or better when I get to Uni? A part of me knows that staying friends would be better but another part of me thinks that I shouldn't just glance at this new found perfection and not do anything. Maybe I'm just being an idiot, I feel like I should know better but she's the first girl that has made me feel like this.Thanks for reading, I appreciate it. Reply to this Question
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reader, Vanessa GP  +, writes (18 September 2011):
Even though your feelings are real and valid for this girl, I think that if your universities are far away from each other it is not realistic to start a relationship. With social networking sites or email etc. you can easily stay in touch with her and remain friends. Once you graduate from university if you kept the friendship intact you could always hook up then. And by then you two would have gotten to know each other much better...maybe you will no longer be interested, maybe you would have met someone else... maybe the feeling will grow stronger? that's the wonderful thing about being young... there is no rush :)
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