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male
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30-35,
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writes:Hi,During the summer I met this woman through a mutual friend. I quickly became friends with her and over time ~3 months I started to develop stronger feelings for her. She's smart, original clear headed, has strong values and is beautiful. Now I was hesistant to ask her out because me her and my friend go out occasionally and have a great time just chilling. Long story short I took her out just me and her a few days ago on a nice night which was somewhat romantic the place I took her. I ended up telling her how I felt and was 100% honest with her on everything. Needless to say she was surprised and she confessed she had a feeling and that her feelings towards me are in "the gray zone". I've met a couple of her friends and her best friend and they all like/approve of me (she told me lol). She told me she had concerns and fears about our friendship and our mutual friends and was afraid she would ruin our relationship. I asked her why and she mentioned she had a bad experience 5 years ago. I did not press her upon the issue. I told my friend and he was a little upset that I asked her out. Now I'm a very sweet guy who's honest. At this moment I'm awaiting for her to come to terms with how she feels. I just want some feedback on all this and would like to know from you girls what the gray zone means. Thx a lot in advance!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): My experience in this area is that the "maybe" zone, or "grey" zone as you call it, is the worst of zones.
Much better to be told "I don't like you that way." and you can move on down the line and see whose out there for you.
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Be told "Yeah, I like you that way too." so you can stay a while and enjoy the relationship.
If I had to do it over again, any woman who told me "maybe" I'd never speak to again.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 grey zone is purgatory..caught in the limbo and not sure what to think.
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