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writes:about 2 weeks ago, i went to spend 3 weeks by my girlfriend. it was perfect. she didn't say once she needed space... life was perfect. now that we seperate from each other, all she wants is her free space. why would she want space after spending 3 perfect weeks with me? because the way i feel is she when she's in the mood then she wants me. when she's not in the mood, then she pushes me away( she wants her space). Please help me thankyou
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reader, Angelihelen  +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Don't worry this happens to the best of us! Now it doesn't mean that your girl doesn't think the world of you just cos she wants space. Most people do need space. 3 weeks is an intense amount of time together and lot of us need time out after that kind of intensity just to do the everyday mundane stuff. It makes the intense time more special. I know that that's cold comfort if you're someone who doesn't need their own space yourself, and some don't, it's just about finding a compromise between the two of you. Tell her how you feel, calmly and sensibly and see what she says. You may find she will reassure yo that nothing's wrong and she hadn't realised how you felt. Good luck, savour those perfect weeks as good memories and hope for many more!
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reader, mum2be +, writes (12 November 2007):
Have you tried talking to your girl about this? Maybe if you tell her how you are feeling she may be able to give you an answer. Hormones may be the answer, but it depends on hw long she has been pushing you away.
If you cant work out your differences, maybe it is time to move on, although i would like to think that you are both mature enough to talk this through and come through it together.
E-mail me to let me know how you get on, either through the site or at [email address blocked]
thanks.
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