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writes:Well last night i went to this gig. My gf went abit weird had some kind of weird turn where she kept crying and stuff. (partly alcohol's fault even though she had the tinest amount) One minute she was laughing the next screaming and shouting. I tried to help at first but when other people started trying to help her i went off with my mates and had a really gd time i know this was mean of me. But i now realise that i dont think i care about her as much as i thought i did. But i dunno how to tell her. How can i break up with her i dont think its fair she clearly likes me alot more than i like her. I also feel under pressure alot as she keeps saying things like i need you and your the only thing that keeps me going. Reply to this Question
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reader, Angel_A +, writes (17 September 2006):
 Hi Kat,
It sounds like your gf has her own issues to deal with - it could be that she's under pressure or feeling that life is difficult and therefore is more emotional than normal. Alcohol never helps anyone when you're feeling low - it just turns us all into jibbering wrecks! (yep been there! lol).
If it's early in your relationship I can understand why this "neediness" would turn you off and make you want to run away.
If you really don't care about her enough then allowing her to lean on you (or letting her down by walking away as on this occasion) is not going to help you or her.
I would be as gentle as possible with her and say to her that it's just not working out, and that you hate to do this as she clearly isn't happy but that you aren't the right person to make her feel happy and to solve the problems that she has.
It won't be pleasant, but stringing her along could make the situation ten times worse if you reach this point in 6 months time when she truly relies upon you
Good luck
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