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writes:I pretended to be someone I wasn't online and a girl fell in love with me. At first i was just messing about because I was bord but then it was like I couldn't stop. The girl started to fall in love with the person I was pretending to be. She even gave me her number and we would talk on the phone for hours. She said I was her first proper love and she loved me so much. I feel really bad and knew it was wrong to do.I felt like I was playing with her emotions so I decided to end it several times but then she told me about a health problem she had and I didn't want to make it worst by breaking up with her so I didn't. I made up a lie that I was going to jail and that we could still be friends. I feel really bad and everyday it eats me up inside. I don't know what to do because I've developed feelings for this girl but only as a friend. I know what I done may make me sound like some freak weirdo but at first my intentions weren't to do this at all I was just bord online trying to pass time. What should I do tell her or not. please help. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): I agree with the poster that said break it off with her, but don't tell her what you did. It's not her fault, and she doesn't deserve to be hurt any more than she already will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): Very tricky situation. I'm ashamed to admit that I was in a similar situation to you. When I was much younger I pretended to be a bloke online and my best friend 'fell in love' with this imaginary character and it all turned messy as you can imagine. Basically speaking from experience you have to end this, just tell her the truth it what she deserves. You will almost definitely lose this girl as a friend but it's not fair to keep this up. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): You felt like you were playing with her feelings? Its exactly what you did. You played with her feelings. Goes to show that people we meet online shouldn't ever be trusted 100% just like that, but many are still so naive.
Just break it off with her. Don't bother telling her the truth, because it'll probably devastate her. Say that you are a jerk and then block her so she can't contact you again. You staying away from her will be the best thing you can do, just leave her alone. She'll be hurt. But you should have thought of that sooner, there is no way this can not hurt her, unless she lied to you to and doesnt really care at all about you.
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