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writes:This is gonna be long but thanks in advance for reading :)I've been seeing this guy for about 2 and a half months (wow, feels like much longer lol) and it's been such fun. I really like him, and I'm sure the feeling's mutual.Thing is, we're not quite official yet. I guess our relationship is a bit peculiar... when we first met, 2.5 months ago, he was very fresh out of a relationship (like he'd just broken up with his girlfriend of 3 years the previous day). We instantly connected and things got pretty physical almost immediately (we stopped short of sex though). I didn't want to get too involved cuz I wasn't trying to be the rebound girl who just gets used and dumped... but then we started hanging out a lot and when we weren't together we were in constant touch. So of course feelings developed, and they've intensified over time.(SN: I'm not worried about his ex, as she's over 5000 miles away and they're not in touch. He believes he's truly over her... according to him when he saw the relationship was beginning to fail he tried to make it work, even sought advice from various people, but when things didn't change they had a talk and agreed it was time to part ways.)Anyways, earlier this year he came into a bit of a situation where he used to live and he had to move out... as a result he's now spending the night at my place till he finds an apartment. This has made us even closer, and I know he appreciates me in his life. In the short time we've been together I've been there for him: I've cheered him on, helped him fix his resume and apply to jobs, helped him prepare for an interview (he got the job), comforted him... i feed him and keep him warm at night :) I even lost my virginity to him... but i'm still single though. technically :/I'm not trying to rush him or anything, but my worry is that he's gotten really comfortable with this arrangement... i mean, he getting all the perks without the commitment so why change it right? :/He has called me the woman in his life, even the love of his life, but has yet to make it official. I've thought about bringing it up many times but I never know what to say or how to go about it... please advise?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2013): Hey,,,,if the feelings are mutual you have nothing to worry about
just be open and ask him,,,so are you interested in anyone? And see how it goes from there...but before that,try give him signs that you like hhim cause guys are very blind they never notice anything,drop hints by looking him straight in the eye,,be coy and shy and be as nice and kind as possible he wont resist the urge to ask you if your seiing anyon or what your doing for the weekend :D
hope it helps! :)
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