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writes: I'm a second-year student in college, and I'm finding myself becoming very attracted to a girl in my physics class. The problem is... I really don't know if she has any feelings towards me! It's very hard to figure out...She's very fun to be around and to talk to, but I don't really often get the chance to talk to her outside of class. A couple times, she had instant message'd me (a good surprise!), but so far, it has only been to talk about the physics class, and she likes for me to help her with the homework. A few days ago she invited me to a play that she was in (I went last night to see it!), but she most certainly invited all her friends...While she talks to me a lot during the class, she always leaves the room after class before I can talk to her again (she doesn't wait up or anything), so I dunno...It doesn't help much that after a really horribly failed relationship I had a year ago, and many many rejections and heart breaks later, I have developed a very big fear of rejection... Which I know I have to overcome sooner or later, but if she rejects me, it would be incredibly awkward for the rest of the semester, and all other classes that we have together. I'm not sure what I should do. I really really want to be pretty sure about how she feels about me before doing anything that would make me look stupid... What do you think? Reply to this Question |
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reader, ariel  +, writes (12 November 2006):
 Hi Phoenix, Like Gustavia said take it slow,coffee,study together ect build up a friendship and take it from there.You are not alone fearing rejection,we all do, never take it personally it could just be the wrong time for the person you are interested in.You will know when its the right time to tell her now is to soon.She has already started including you in her friendship circle,just take it one step at a time.
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reader, gustavia  +, writes (12 November 2006):
rejection is tough. plus you've got school to add to your anxiety. just relax and enjoy the moments you hook up with her. she invited you to her play, you should invite her to perhaps study or a movie with coffee/beverage of choice? take it slow...go the friend route, if she wants more than friendship, she'll let you know.
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