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writes:Ok i been talkin to this guy for a lil bit and im use to gettin hurt..i always have this feeling that im goin to get hurt again..im having this feelin once again but i like him..He says he likes me to but i dont know because i been hurt all these times..i think he is real but what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): It is difficult if you have been hurt before, because you are worried about getting hurt again. But at the same time, you don't want to throw away every opportunity to get to know someone. Even though you have been hurt before, can you think of anything good which came from those situations? What did you learn? Did you become stronger in any way? Even if we can't always see it, every situation teaches us something and helps us learn and grow.
If you like this guy, and he likes you, then why not take things really slowly? Just work on getting to know each other and becoming friends, and don't put any pressure on yourself for anything more. Maybe you could even tell him that you have been hurt before, and so would like to take things really slowly. If he likes you, I'm sure he would understand.
The past is the past. Try not to concentrate on what has happened. Keep in mind what you have learned, but remember that every person is different, and every friendship and relationship is new and different too. Imagine a clean slate, a fresh start. If things start to go wrong, then you can deal with that if it happens. We all get hurt at times. But don't let it stop you from living your life the way you want to. I hope this helps.
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