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36-40,
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writes:hello everyone ...i broke up with my girlfriend yesterday who really cared for me like her own child ...she was a very responsible, sensible and loving girl with a genuine and pure heart. to be frank, i have always liked her only as a friend and was there with her because i really cared for her a lot and was worried for a long time that it will break her heart into million pieces.i sometimes showed too closeness out of pity and sometimes avoided her out of guilty. we went back and forth and that really confused the poor girl sometimes about my true feelings for her. she became super possessive and affectionate and i had to tell her yesterday and this has badly devastated both of us. but it is for our own good as this relationship had many factors against it and had no future.i salute this girl for keeping herself calm after hearing this shocking news and still promising me to support me and told that she will cope up with it and also bring me out of it as i will always remain her best friend(i had asked her to be friends with me).wht a strong heart she has! she herself will quietly live with the pain and will also take care of me! she said she just wants to have me in her live without complaining about anything. it was a long distance relationship.have i done a sin by playing with the girl's sentiments ? my heart is pouring since i have told her this and i cant see my sweetheart suffering which she didnt deserve at all ! i could have avoided getting into the mess long back but i am feeling guilty and i confess not to do anything like that!i know he will cry every ten minutes as i was her soul and she said she loves me more than her parents...but this is my last chance to get out of it or else i will marry a girl whom i dont love! i hope time heals everything fast and i just want her to feel better...have i done a sin friends ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): you expect this girl to sacrifice her entire life for you, this is your sin.
what are you upset about, that you finally had the guts to tell her that you were not in love with her?
what i cannot understand is how she still wants to remain your friend. she is going to waste her life and you will willingly let her. she has loved you for so long, you claim to care for her, but you will still use her for as long as you don't feel gulity.
be a real man, and cut ties with this girl. allow her to go find her happiness elsewhere. allow her to live, allow her to reclaim her pasion in life, allow her to love herself and be free of you.
the pain you are feeling does not compare to what you have done to her. you have destroyed her life, but you want her as a friend. get real. you are selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): What I want to know is why the hell didn't you think you loved her? She was your best friend, and she loved you with her soul and you seem to be a bit torn up about this break up too. Don't do her any favors, she doesn't need yo as a friend in her life, she needs to move past her love for you and be able to open her heart to someone who is willing to stip up and claim her as the one...since you failed to be up to the task....let her go, please.
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reader, Anil D +, writes (1 April 2009):
Anil D is verified as being by the original poster of the question please people dont give such replies ...its increasing my pain ...try to understand my situation please...its not m pride trust me ...i am just concerned about her a lot ...its not possible to stay away from each other completely ..she said i am the first and the last person in her life to love her so much
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reader, Anil D +, writes (1 April 2009):
Anil D is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni asked this question people ....we really had good times together and have enjoyd a lot and we had a brilliant chemistry...i know she will miss everything and wont show her pain...i was her everything and we think about each other all the time...she was a great girl to be with !!
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