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writes:My husband and I have been married for 18 months now and we are expecting our first baby in 6 weeks. He has had a drug addiction in the past and we got through it.. I had thought at least. For the past 6 months he has done nothing but lie to me. He hurt his back a while ago, well has a hurniated disk, and has been going to different emergency rooms to get the pain killers he wants and then lies to me about it. i can tell when my husband is high and for him to deny it and me have no proof makes me a wreck. The only times he tells the truth is when I have proof like find a pill bottle or something. We have gone through things like this so many times i'm to the point where I have zero trust in him. Everytime I think it is getting better and he gains some trust back the same thing happens again. Now I always have this feeling inside me that he is hiding something from me and I feel like i'm crazy now. he promises he will stop and i just don't believe him. we got to counceling every week he has even lied to her once. I know he wants to change because I know he's as excited as I am about the baby and to have even more kids. I'm so confused and I have 6 weeks to figure out what needs to happen before our baby girl is in the middle of it. I have no idea what to do.. should I leave or give him another chance? What should I do?
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reader, dreamzofchange +, writes (2 December 2008):
 Maybe it would be best in this situation, considering there will also be a baby involved shortly, too give him the option of which he wants. Drugs or his kid. Trust is a highly important factor in a relationship and if you can't trust him now imagine later on when you're at home taking care of the baby and can't get ahold of him or have no idea where he is. And also you have to consider that fact of him being high while taking care of your alls little girl. Which is very scary alone. I have grown up around drugs and it's the wrong life to live. A very hard life at that. Maybe you can get the chance whenever you can tell he hasn't taken anything and sit down and give him the ultimatum. I'm sorry for the situation you're in, especially being pregnant and having so much stress. But it sounds like your litte girl is very lucky to have a mom like you.
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