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writes:I became the other woman quite by chance. My lover pursued me for many months. I did the right thing and sent him back to his wife and family. Now, I am the only one in agony. I just want to have contact with him as I did before, but he is very cool to me. He broke my heart and my spirit. I think he owes me the courtesy of a response or closure of some kind. I am in great emotional and physical pain. He could alleviate much of it by providing some answers. Am I asking for too much? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): Listen to "I Will Survive" a few times. Yes, people, men, can be VERY emotionally irresponsible. They DO owe you respect, courtesy, they DO have the responsibility of behaving like accountable, considerate adults. But many do not. There is a lot of immaturity and selfishness out there. Learn from the experience...and don't let it get you down. Stay sober about the reality of what's happened.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (12 September 2010):
 You can inflict similar pain by telling his wife about the whole situation.
Honestly, he does not owe you anything. He was/is an unavailable man. He used you and disrespected his wife. I'd be angry more than upset. I wouldn't fall into this type of trap again. Men say and do all types of things to sleep with a woman. His wife deserves to know the type of man she is married to.
Your pain will subside with time hun. Don't do this again. You'll find a man who will be fully yours, just will take some time.
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reader, jodieleigh  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 leave him be with his family. it will get easier for you in time. time is the best healer. and out of sight is really out of mind. hope it works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Hi
I admire your integrity this proves you are a strong person you can handle this situation and move on with your head held high. Your pain will ease you don't need him to do this.. he has not broken your spirit just HIS wedding vows.
I wish you luck in waiting for your Mr right, i bet he is just around the corner.
Spunkey Monkey :)
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (11 September 2010):
My Dear
there is a wise saying
that says..
whom ever loved for something well leave you for it..
the guy wanted an afair
you stoped him with your wisdom and kindness and got him back towards his family,
then it is natural that he well loose all the attention he had towards you because the cause of that old attention has gone..
and i assure you that if you wanted to start any connection with him again he well most probably get it wrong..
and so my advise to you is to simply leave him alone and try to find comfort somewhere else
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