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writes:Hey! I am relatively new to online dating and just need some advice about the process. I've exchanged messages with this girl for about a week now. We seem to have a lot in common and the back and forth messaging has gone very well so far. Also, we have seen each other's pictures and profiles on a dating site and live in the same local area. I would like to know what is generally considered an acceptable time frame for moving through the steps of messaging someone, exchanging phone numbers and arranging to meet in person. Should I be thinking in terms of weeks or months? What are some of your experiences with meeting people online? Thanks for your help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): My husband added me to his yahoo messenger list and I was on there for some weeks before I finally messaged him. He was going to delete me from his list possibly, but one day we started talking, and saw each other on cam, then maybe it was that day or some days or a few weeks or less later that we met. He called me on the phone and told me he was coming or was almost here and we met. We had a few dates, and became bf/gf for a year, then we got married. His best friend was into me, but of course I remained faithful. Here has been my experience with dating online: If someone acts crazy about you when you are online and they don't even know you (haven't met you) you should get as far away from them as you can. If they act like a cool individual, as in maybe flirt a little, but not act crazy over you since they don't even know you, they might possibly be trustworthy. Always meet them with a friend (because they could be a psychopath, and you want someone around who has got your back.) And if someone keeps delaying meeting you, well I wouldn't waste my time. If they are "too busy" to meet you, chances are they will be "too busy" to be yours. I let my future husband tell me when he felt a connection. I wasn't so sure, but this let me know that he was interested. I wanted to delay going out with him, but my feelings got the best of me one day and I changed my mind and told him that I'd go out with him. And just on a sidenote: You might go through a few crazies before finding the one for you. I know I did!
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