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writes: Yes my boyfriend and I have been living together for a year and a half. We are having a child in two months. But it seems like now that I am pregnant he doesn't want to be around me and he wants to go drink at places that his ex girlfriend hangs out and I don't trust him anymore. Should I just let him do whatever he wants or should I give up on our relationship?
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reader, missdee +, writes (22 September 2005):
You need to talk to him and let him know how you are feeling. Tell him how much this hurts you. Ask him if he can picture himself in your shoes, and you are going out meeting your ex. Sometimes we don't realize how the other one feeling until we put ourself in their shoes. If this don't stop him then you could try going out to the bars with him. Ofcourse not to drink but you can be there as a reminder to the ex that he is yours. It would also serve as a reminder to him that he has somebody at home and a baby on the way soon. He needs to start acting like a father figure instead of someone that is available.
If you start letting him do whatever he want now. Your entire relationship will be that way. My huband and I have an agreement that has worked for 9 years. It is "Don't do anything to me you wouldn't want me to do to you."
No I don't think you should give up on your relationship. There will be alot of bumps, compromises along the way. Its hard work to make a marriage work but if both parties try then its worth it in the end
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