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writes:Hi all looking for some input with a crisis at the moment. Myself and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years we split for 2 months last year after being engaged, due to the stress. We got back together and moved in together. We were very happy. Then I had an argument with him when I was drinking in public in front of his friends. Silly I know, ive since quit drinking. that was 10 days ago he's been hot and cold with me ever since. He told me he loves me and he was very happy with me but he said he would never let us fight like that again and he's not sure if he can continue with the relationship after the fight. Yesterday he asked for some space for a few days. I've moved out for a few days to give him the space he wants to meet in three days. Do you think he'll come back and work on the relationship? Is 3 days enough time? I'm feeling so low about this he's the love of my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): Thank you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): Unfortunately there is no such thing as a "silly little thing" when it comes break ups. The fact they were enough for that to happen means they were big things.
I wish you the best OP, hopefully you can work something out. Just try and do things and keep busy until he shows up again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): The issues we fought about were minute. They were silly little things about the house etc. I get very emotional with drink on me so I've promised not to drink anymore and to communicate more effectively. Thanks for your response. Hard not talking to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): No one can tell you OP, we're as in the dark as you. It could go either way but you're doing the best you can, you just have to wait and see.
One thing is important though OP. Is whatever you were fighting about a real issue? Or were you just being a drunken idiot fighting about nothing? If it's a real issue OP then it needs to be resolved so think about that and how to resolve it. If it's something that needs to be resolved then it's more important that you do than worry about how you tried to last time. It won't go away just because you were a drunken mad woman one night.
Spend this time wisely thinking about how you can make up for this in real terms and think very deeply about the issues you have OP.
This is not the first time you have had to break up because you faced difficulties. You have to be prepared for the possibility that he may feel you and he just don't work well together regardless of the love, you may just not be suited to each other because when the shit hits the fan you can't deal with things as a couple and it tears you apart.
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