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writes: I'm having problems at the moment with my relationship. We are not having any fun in the bedroom and I'm feeling unatrtractive. Last night, when my little daughter was asleep in her own bedroom for a change, I tried to be intimate with my husband by giving him oral pleasure. He said he enjoyed it, but was too tired to acknowledge anything, and he said he just wanted to sleep. Half the time he wasn't interested and said he was tired. So basically I don't know what to do. I have spent a fortune on sexy underwear and new clothes to try and get him interested, and so far he hasn't shown any interest. Because we have a kid, no time is ever a good time for us to have fun. Basically we have sex once a month - sometimes its two months - and I'm finding it difficult to control my ego. There are times whre my self esteem is really low and I feel unattractive. I have now started fancying someone else and keep thinking 'what it is like to get together with this other person?' The question is, what do I do?What do I do
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reader, Taija +, writes (4 December 2005):
 thats a hard one there angel but simply when you are thinking about other males in a sexual or loving way just remember your wedding vowels and think about how it would affect your daughter. instead why dont you and your husband sit down and talk about it and if that feels uncomfortable then do something nice like dinner or something like that so that the mood is right. instead of buying "sexy" lingerie just be yourself your husband didnt first like you because of your under garments he liked you the person that you are inside and out. but if you like the idea of being romantic maybe some soft music and some candles and maybe a few drinks or something jsut to spice things up abit. maybe even a weekend where your daughter is at your parents or with a friend so that it is just you. Good Luck Sweet :-D
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reader, Phyrekiss +, writes (4 December 2005):
 I would definatly try and approach him about this problem, but make sure when you approach him its not a time where he is tired, and when you are sure he cant avoid the situation. Sex is a key element in a healthy relationship, and the longer you wait, the longer/worse the problem will become. I speak from expierience, not proudly, but I have a failed marriage under my belt for the same reason. Dr. Phil has great advice on his website for these things too.
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