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writes: Please help, me and my boyfriend argued and he was very angry with me. He said he needed time to think. This was 31st July and I have not heard from him since, no text no phone call, nothing? I have not text him or rang him as everyone has told me to give him some space. It's been three days now and I just want to talk and try and save this relationship, do you think he will speak to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2005): If it has been three days maybe you should call him. Your answer really depends on how strong the relationship is. He is probulary still mad. Waiting on you to call, he feels like you are the one on the wrong, so you should call him. He figures he did not do anyhting wrong so why should he call you . By you calling him that will show that you were sorry and you still want to talk to him.
If he does not answer when you call do not call him. He will see that you called if he returns your call that day then he still wants to talk but is playing hard. If it takes him a couple of days then calls back that means he really did not want to call but he misses you
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reader, charliesgirl +, writes (4 August 2005):
It all depends on what his track record is with regards to getting in touch with you. If he texts you constantly and rings you several times a day, then obviously his behaviour is out of character and suggests that something is wrong. If on the other hand, he doesn't call you every day, then maybe give him a day or two more before getting in touch, if this is his usual style of contact.
However, three days is probably long enough to allow somebody to cool off. I would suggest choosing a time when he is in the best position to take a call, and calling him as opposed to texting, as it shows you genuinely want to talk, and you have a better chance of getting some response from him. Try and discuss your porblems with him calmly, and apologise for your behaviour if an apology is due. That way can try and rebuild the bridges between you.
If he doesn't answer leave him a message asking him to call you. Then give him another couple of days to respond before trying to call him again. If by that stage you have no response, and there is no explainable reason for his absence, sadly you will have to accept that he's not prepared to put the effort into saving the relationship.
You need answers from this guy, one way or another. It isn't fair on you for him to leave you dangling by a string not knowing where you stand.
I hope it all works out for you. All the best.
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