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writes:I'm so nervous to c my long distance bf of 2 months. We met through mutual friends and he paid for me a plane ticket to go visit! Of course he's seen several diff pics of me but I'm still nervous.. A pic can only go so far! I just want to b everything he looking forward to! I guess it's just my insecurities getting the best of me but I'm really looking forward to meeting him. I have less than 72 hours!! Any advice to calm my nerves? I know I will have butterflies n my stomach the entire plane ride there
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reader, Natalie:)  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 i've been in this situation, give him a long phone call so you can hear his voice, when you see him it will be wierd, but you'll get over it pretty quickly
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Is this something you have to go through with? I don't mean to put a dampener on your plans, but I am concerned by your question. You have been in contact with this guy for two months, and now you are flying over to visit him? My initial reaction to this is, whoa! Slow down! Two months isn't any time at all to get to know someone really well. Even if you have mutual friends, how well do they know him? And that doesn't even matter much anyway...what matters is what you think of him. I think two months is not enough time at all to decide to make such a big decision to meet someone in a different part of the world.
So my answer to your question, which you probably won't like, would be to in fact cancel the flight, and get to know this guy better. Much better. Or ask HIM to fly over to see YOU. That would be a bit safer. I am not saying this to try and upset you or anything, I am just concerned for your safety.
However, if you are determined to see him, then the best advice I can give is, well, firstly be safe. Tell people, friends and family, where you are going and when. Stay in touch with them via phone if you can. Ask them to call you often, just to check if things are okay. Make everyone aware of where you are going and who you are going to see. Be safe first and foremost. How long are you visiting for? Again, let people know when you are supposed to be due back, so people can make sure things are alright.
As for the nerves, I think that is natural. Meeting anyone for the first time is always anxiety provoking. Just try and remember that he is probably feeling the same as you, nervous and wondering what you will think of him. And it's only a visit, right? If it doesn't work out, well, never mind. You'll have given it a try. Think of it as an exciting holiday, if that helps at all.
Once again, please, please be as safe as possible if you go ahead with this. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Inhale one deep breath through your nose, and hold the breath for 10 seconds, then exhale the breath through your mouth. Repeat 10 times. You will be amazed how relaxing this can be. Keep calm, for he is possibly as nervous too. I admire your sense of adventure. And i hope all goes well.
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