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writes: i was in a relationship for about a year and it was so perfect.. before i met this guy i had no self asteem at all and i ended up cheating on him at the beginning. through our relationship i never told him but i decided to tell him anyways cuz i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.. almost a year passed now and we still cannot move on. we both tried to find someone else but nothin worked. we still love each other but he isn't yet ready to go out with me again. please help.
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (17 August 2006):
 you wrote he isnt ready to go back out with you yet, so another words hes waiting till he can trust you again before getting back with you and since you cheated on him what you should do and what you owe him is pateints and time and then see what he wants to do! if you love him that much im sure you can wait for him! or maybe explain why you did it self esteem it is a very controlling thing and youll do anything to feel worthy! ye so 2 choices explain and explain how much you regret it and how sorry you are! or wait for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): Well you have damaged the trust that you had between you. It will take a very long time for it to be repaired if ever.You will have to take things very slowly and remember that you are the one who has caused all these problems. He has every right to be cautious, you probably put him through the mill emotionally. Remember the ball is in his court now and only when he is ready to have a relationship with you, can things move on. You cannot push things but you have always got to be open and truthful with him about everything so that he can possibly regain trust in you. when people have hurt each other deeply then it takes a long,long time for things to be the same, if ever. Just consistently prove that you are sincere, love him and deeply regret what you have done. Hopefully in time you can both heal your wounds.
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