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writes: My girlfriend and i have been together for five yrs. We both are in are early twentys and we have four kids together. The past four yrs we just fought and seperated now anything and everything my kids or i do upsets her a lot more. She's very controling and strong minded, everything has to be her way. She is a stay home mom and i work third shift. What should i do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): Wow, four kids and in your early twentys, no the wonder she is the way she is.Has she had any youth? I feel for her, i would be depressed and tearing my hair out by now. Can you get anyone to have the kids for the weekend. Take her away, pamper her, buy her some flowers. I bet money is tight. I feel for you both. Kids are not easy, i know i have had three. They certainly don't help a situation. Make her feel special. Ok she is at home but do you help her around the house, with the kids??
Also if she is depressed do you think a trip to the doctors might help? I don't mean it in a bad way but she may just need a lift from some professional help. I hope you two can get things going ok. Best Wishes
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reader, ariel  +, writes (9 November 2006):
 your problem is not as cut and dry as you would like it to be.Your girlfriend has lots of issues and sounds depressed.The wall she has built around her is getting higher and higher. She needs help.You don't mention how old your children are.Are they all under 5yrs? well that in its self is hard work and she might be lonely or missing adult company.The two of you sound like you have issues as well.
You need to get to the root of her problem and coax it out of her.This requires the right time and no kids around.Maybe start by saying I know things are.....,but I am worried about you.Why are you not happy? [don't point fingers or blame she will just close up].Don't give up,she needs you.Good luck.
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