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51-59,
*uv2behappy
writes:My husband only thinks for himself, he never seems to think about my feelings or what I might like him to do for me today. What I am getting at is that I cook dinner every night. I take care of the bills, I run my son to Band at night and pick him up on Tuesday's and Thursday's and go to the games on Friday night with chaperoning. Then feed the outside dogs when I get home because he's not here. I come home exhausted and my husband is at our neighbors house in the garage drinking his beer and doesn't even think about what he could do for us when we come home, like cook dinner, feed the dogs. I also feel that he cares about his friends more than us, because I have been asking him to fix my car, he is mechanically enclined and repairs equipment for his business, so he knows how, it's my upper and lower control arm bushings. I took it for an oil change and told the guy at the place that my front end is knocking when I hit bumps and they look at it and said, Ma'am you need to get your bushings done, or they could cause you problems. I told my husband 6 months ago and he hasn't even mentioned it to me he would fix them. But if he was to have one of his friends call and say Jon come over here and help us with this motor or some other project and he's there in a minute. He also has a truck here that is a 1990 chev pickup and it's looks pretty bad, but he says we can paint it and fix the muffler and it's a stick shift that he wants my son to drive as a new driver, with the traffic we have here today compared to when we were kids, it's just not safe for him to drive that truck in case he pops the clutch into someone here in Ft Lauderdale, Florida. I have been trying to find him another car, but it takes some time to find the right one and my husband insists on getting him to drive that truck. I could go on forever, but give me some advice on how to make him cook, and help out when I am not here to do it, it would make me a more pleasant person and less stress to come home to knowing after working 8 hours a day 5 days a week and 4 hours on saturday and doing everything in this house, and then some. Plus I have a daughter in college in Orlando and I have to deal with her problems too with her schooling and just the mom can you things. I also have to study for an insurance test I have to take for my 220 license and he doesn't seem to care and help me out around the house so I can study. But when he took his test for Construction, you had to be quite in the house. Please see what you can tell me. Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): Your husband is lacking a lot of respect and consideration for you, but unless you voice all your problems and demand that he help, than you are just as at fault, you should tell him what you are willing to do through out the week and what you are not, and only do what you can do... If that means not fixing him a plate of dinner because he's not doing his part, then so what until he gets with it. Don't allow yourself to be taken for granted, (" A man will only do what YOU allow").
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): Stop working, you got an lazy pig for an husband. Sit your husband down, say if he dosen't start helping then you will quit work and look after the house, you cannot do EVERYTHING for the rest of your life. Stand up for yourself.
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