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stem1981
writes:Help!!!!!Me and my ex (father of my three children) are going to be participating in a mediation session. DIY style!! where two mutual friends will be the mediators. I want it to run as smoothly as possible but dont know what to discuss. I think that I should try to just talk about things relating to the children. I want to get everything out today so that I dont wish I said things when it is all over with. Any advice appreciated.History: Not an amicable split, he is still seeing the girl that he cheated on me with. She found out that we were still sleeping together when they were together. Dumped him and he now hates me and is trying to work it out with her!
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (22 January 2008):
 I would write down a list of concirns I wished to discuss, so nothing gets forgotten. If he's adamant on making it work with this other woman, then do focus on the welfare of the children. Ie- Are they going to see him as much as they need to? Is he willing to cover child costs? Is he willing to be friends with you for the sake of the children's peace of mind?
Note down anything else that might matter to you. There are times when a child needs both parents around together, like birthdays, parents evenings at school, concerts they take part in, religious upbringing (first communion or whatever might be of equivalent importance) and facing eventual troubles like bullying, depression due to family break up. Make sure he's going to be involved!
Good luck with it all!
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