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anonymous
writes:My ex who I have been broken up with now for over 4 years very recently got out of a very long relationship of probably over 2 years. She has made it more than clear that she would like for us to be together again which totally took me by surprise. So, we've been hanging out. Anyway, I feel like she's lived a whole other life before this and I don't know where I could possibly fit in now as she's still friends with her ex and all of his friends. I'm very confused and while I love hanging out with her as we get along great, she has moved quite quickly from this past relationship into me. When I asked her about this, she says she's thought about us being together again in the past, so it's not just all of a sudden. I don't want to get hurt again and am afraid to commit myself to her yet. Any advice would be great. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): PiningAway, I'm the original poster. To give you an update on my situation, my ex was the one trying to push us together and I had to talk to her on a couple of occassions to express why I was hesitant to commit. Well, yesterday I did a lot of thinking and thought I was ready to finally commit to her, but now SHE is the one who is nervous about committing because of my original doubts lol. Yet, she still wants to hang out and she said she just wants to think about things. Ugh, I'm so confused.
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reader, PiningAway +, writes (18 October 2009):
Any update on this? ...this relates to a problem I'm having, and I'd like to know how things worked out for you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): I think that if you still love her, give it a chance. Love an be stronger the second time around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): I'm the guy who posted this question. I just wanted to say..she dumped her ex as she was very unhappy with him for a while and said she had been thinking of me for a while. Don't know if this changes anything, but thanks for all responses!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): I think she is using you as a rebound relationship to avoid her feelings over her recent breakup and you still have feelings for her.
I am not saying that it couldn't turn into something more, but I would take things very slowly or maybe tell her to contact you in a few months after she has had time to heal on her own, and if she still feels the same way, then look you up.
I think it seems suspect, I mean what took her so long?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): If you want an honest answer, here it is- she is using you as her safety net. She knows you still have feelings for her, and her ego is bruised from the ex. As soon as she is back to normal she might dump you again. Sounds like someone I used to be, stay away from getting too emotionally involved cuz she WILL dump you again. Guaranteed.
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