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My ex is more stable, but we're too comfortable together. The new girl is young and sexy. What do I do?

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Question - (27 February 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 March 2006)
A male , *ickN182 writes:

Hi i need some help fast! I had been saving up to get a place with my long term girlfriend - things were okay but not great, maybe because we had been stuck in pretty much the same room together for 2 years with my parents while we saved up. Anyway i had started to have feelings for someone else at work and found out she had liked me for ages so instead of cheating i called it off with my girlfriend and decided to try and be on my own for a bit while i worked out what i wanted to do.

Thing is it is very difficult to be on your own when one of the people you like sees you every day and one thing led to another and we started sleeping with each other and going out.

I have to admit i was doing a fair bit of lying to both girls to keep them both sweet while i sorted my head out but in the end i came clean to both of them and said that i really don't know what i want. Thing is my ex is stable, has a good job and has just put down a deposit on the place we were looking at - she is attractive the main problem is we had become too comfortable with each other and the sex had died off.

The new girl is younger, very attractive and the sex is amazing. We get on well but my worry there is that working with someone and seeing them as well is not always a good thing and she does not seem as stable as my ex, plus there is a 10 year age gap (im 32 shes 22, my ex is 27).

I have been given an ultimatum to sort this out by the end of this week by the new girl as i have been dragging my heels for 3 months now and am running out of time. If i am still undecided then new girl is going to tell me to get lost as i have been doing this long enough (a fair point).

I have been thinking about this for ages and i am still no closer to an answer, I have to choose one or the other. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2006):

what on earth do you think youre doing?

sleeping with 2 women who you are letting have feelings for you! not fair.

you are selfish and need to let them both down gently so they can both move on without you!

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