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writes:My boyfriend's mum hates me.I have never met her as she is back home in another country.I have talked to her on the phone a couple of times, well more like tried talking to her. From the moment she answered or I have answered,she will start insulting me. All this while,i will just keep silent. If I even start talking,she will shout even louder and continue with what she was saying. Though my bfs sister is here,she refuses to meet me. I am with my bf for about 3 yrs now. We have talked this a lot. Accordinh to him,his mum was always like this. She refuses to listen and talk things in a cool manner. Some of his relatives who are here gives me the cold shoulder these days after they knew about us. One of the main reason is that I am of different caste. Nowadays, how can his family still be so narrow minded? Although my family dont really like him,they are willing to accept him. We have had countless arguments about this. And because of this,our relationship is in a bad state. We argue a lot these days. And my bf does not make an effort to persuade his family.He tells me he has done his best and he will convince his mom when he visits her. That is like about 2 more yrs. I dont know how I can get across to his family that I am a fine woman anf not just another caste. Its killing me. There are times whrn I consider ending the relationship once and for all. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mii +, writes (2 December 2012):
Mii is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey sweetthing, thanks for your reply. Well, we have actually tried ending this relationship many times. But each time it's either he calls me or I call him only after few hours. I am not sure if I should be with him. He is kind of a guy who doesn't like me to go out unnecessarily. And I have got no guy friends. He doesn't like that. And he keeps himself that way too, without having female friends. I think I love him but i am not sure. I can't leave him but the possessiveness is too much for me. I need to live my own life. I am not getting much freedom. I am a confused mess right now. I know life will be better when I am without him. But then if he's a better changed person, then life with him will be amazing. But is he going to change? we have talked about him being to possessive too. His answer is that I love you very much. He has trust issues as well. I guess its my fault that I lied to him behind his back and went out. If I ask him he will not let me or we will have a huge argument. What should I do?
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reader, Mii +, writes (2 December 2012):
Mii is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey sweetthing,i know I should end this relationship but I cant.in fact we have tried this many times. It just doesnt work. Its either him who calls back or I call him in less than few hrs. These days I am not sure if I love him.i mean I had an ex before. He was my first and back then I was younh and naive. I was full of 'love' or a huge crush,i am not certain. But it definitely felt like love. Btw,how am I suppose to know if I love this man? I am a confused mess right now. Another I ve forgot to add is that he has trust issues with me. He caught me texting a guy friend and from then on he has been always calling me and if I dont ans..we have to quarrel.i am someone who needs more freedom and he just finds that unnecessary. I cant go out without a good reason. And this thing has been bugging for a long time.why cant I leave him? And I dont know if I want to leave him. I can see a better life without him but then again with him as a better changed person,it will be amazing. But will he change?
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reader, sweetthing  +, writes (1 December 2012):
My ex boyfriend's mother hated me for similar reasons. Hence him being a ex because he was hen pecked by his mother. If she is like this now and so is he, then what future can you have,.
He will always listen to his mother.
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