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writes:This is the problem. My boyfriend and I already decided to get married. He just informed me he would like to sleep in my bed but it isn't a must cause he has slept alone for so long. Should I be concerned? Reply to this Question
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reader, TeaLady +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Did you ask him why he would offer to sleep alone and tell him it bothers you?
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reader, TeaLady +, writes (23 February 2011):
If you are both adults and getting married then what is the problem? If you want to wait though, then he will have to wait. Don't ever give in if you don't want to.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 February 2011):
He doesn't care whether or not you guys sleep in the same bed after you are married? This is the real question.
Have you two ever slept together?
Does he have any medical conditions? Perhaps he just likes his space in bed. my husband constantly complains that I'm a cover hog.
He didn't say he didn't want to sleep in bed with you. In general it's a rather odd thing to say. Traditionally, a married couple share a bed (unless there's medical conditions of where one has to get up throughout the night and doesn't want to disturb their snoozing spouse).
I would be a bit concerned, and ask him what would be the reasons he didn't want to sleep in bed with you. Maybe you could suggest shacking up before marriage to work this bed situation out. Unless, he believes in waiting after marriage to move in together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): I think she is concerned that he thinks it would be normal not to sleep in the same bed. Maybe he just doesn't want to impose himself too much, maybe he needs you to reassure him that you want him there every night and every morning! : ) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionneed to clarify this question, its not the sleepin in his bed now..its after we r married..he dont care if we sleep together in the same bed or not..is this a concern?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 February 2011):
What's the problem? You two are engaged(?) and he wants to sleep in your bed, sounds more than ok to me. If you two are going to get married, you're going to have to get used to sharing a bed. Unless of course you're one of those married couples who sleep in the same room but in twin beds. (My grandparents did that because due to my grandmother's illness)
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