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writes:my boyfriend isnt interested in making out. i feel like im pulling teeth. he always has some excuse. we dont even kiss unless i steal one from him. hes interested in other stuff, it makes me mad but he has stated that he isnt a affectionate nor romantic person. should i settle fr what i have (which is nothing)? or ask him to meet me half way? i know he cares about me, but i want him to shows it in ways hes not particular to... Reply to this Question
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reader, confuzzled_in_cville +, writes (11 May 2008):
confuzzled_in_cville is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the advice. i gotta clear up a few things, im not being forced to do anything against my will like sex or anything. i just dont like feeling ignored in this department. this relationship feels like a friendship and not anything intimate, i want to show him whats the matter but hes generally oblivious and wouldnt understand my gestures of dissatisfaction. im giving him the cold shoulder now and hoping he notices that im not encouraging him, or massaging his back, or listening intently about his day. treat others as youd like to be treated is my schtick and i hope he gets it, thanx more advice helpful. am i going about this the right way. ooh ooh also im not forcing him, id like him to be affectionate and romantic without me asking. when i do he keeps it up temporarily, he even admitted hes not trying cause he knows hes not threatened of losing me
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): ok first of all you are preeing him to feel that he has to kiss you.do not do that. lay off a bit. try this when you go on a date; do something he likes doing. and the reason why he probly does not want to makeout is because he probly does not like to be told to do something. it is either that or he has some personal issues with him self.get my drift.i hoped i helped.
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reader, gwen101  +, writes (9 May 2008):
I think that you should have a honest conversation with him tell him that you like him allot but explain that i am an affectionate person and i like making out and if you really like me you should at least meet me half way. If he refuses to compromise all i am going to tell you is that you deserve someone who respects you and treats you with the affection and respect you deserve if you don't get that from him its time to make a decision. Address what you said about him being interested in other stuff, i assume that is sex. if it is you should not be forced into doing something you don't feel comfortable with i hope i helped you come to a decision.
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