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writes:How is it possible for two people to love each other and constantly fight? My b/f seems to pick fights with me over everything and I don't know how to stop him. It seems I can't make a comment about anything. The other night, we were watching a movie and I was watching the previews and he started telling me I'd seen them before. Which I had not. When I tried to tell him I didn't remember seeing them, he got mad and said he had seen them so how could I not remember them? I told him that maybe I was in the kitchen cleaning up after dinner while the previews ran last time, maybe he had rented some movies when he travels out of town and he had seen it but I did not. He flew into a rage and said I was "making up shit" about what he does when he's out of town on business. It's a simple fact he loves to watch movies. It's a simple fact that he travels a lot for work. It's a simple fact that I don't know what he does when he's gone, because I don't ask him to give me a play-by-play and he certainly does not give me a play by play, so why was this such a big deal? We rent movies all the time at home, why would I not think that he might rent a couple of flicks when he's stuck in a hotel room 200 miles away? Why did this flip his switch? It seems like his switch is always getting flipped over stupid little benign comments and it ruins our time together. We were having a perfectly wonderful evening before he blew up tonight. I had cooked a wonderful meal, and we had sat down to watch a movie when all of a sudden he started acting like I had amnesia simply because I hadn't seen some stupid movie previews and he had. What causes him to turn everything into a fight? I don't understand him at all!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, aunty jess  +, writes (15 February 2009):
 me and my boyfriend used to argue all the time about the most insignificant of things, it stil happens and blows into a full argument and often results in both of us becoming very upset, recently however we have both talked about our actions and reasons for getting so frustrated and angry and we are making the best of things, and when one of us does annoy the other we try and move the conversation onto something else and lighten the atmosphere. I suggest you talk to him seriously about how you really feel and try to find ways of calming the situations down
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jess
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