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writes:What do you do when your boyfriend suffers from vanity? He wasn't always like this, but about a year and a half ago he got a job at this mens underwear store. Totally brand new place which features live models as well. He got hired on as manager, graphic designer and model. The place he works at is filled with people who really respect him and treat him well. He only models once every couple of weeks... otherwise, it's just graphic designer and retail work.It's a great job, he does well and I'm happy for him. However, over the last year I've noticed a change in him. He is getting more and more into his appearance. It's not a very attractive quality, but he's using all these products, getting tans, obsessing over what he wears (and I mean obsessing. It is easily 45 minutes of picking out clothes in the morning, co-ordinating EVERYTHING) his hair, he flexes in the mirror, does his "model face". Just the other day he was saying "I love how you're just a little bit hotter than I am." This is very sweet of him to say, but a year ago he would've left the compliment at "you're beautiful" or "i love you". Now, he's bringing up himself a little too often!I love him to bits and pieces, but this is starting to get a little nuts. Recently he's been putting on this man makeup... it comes in a compact and apparently contains "real silk". Man makeup! I'm a theater geek and I can appreciate men in makeup, but this is turning into an all too consistent routine! It's affecting other things too - he has always been exceptionally smart and now he takes these IQ tests all the time. His last test reflected 158 (well above average), and suddenly he is getting more and more smug. The test came off some cheesy internet site!! Now, he's really starting to explain things to me as if I'm a child, when I have a 3.7 GPA in school. I know my IQ isn't 158, but I'm not an idiot!This is just really starting to bug me. He's a wonderful guy, we have a great relationship and I really want him to be confident and feel good about himself, but I think he is beginning to cross the line into being egotistical. Am I being a little too sensitive about this whole thing (totally, totally possible)? What is a tactful way to tell him that he's getting a little crazy?
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reader, lotty83  +, writes (28 June 2008):
You are not being sensitive, he's being a fool thats let things go to his head. The world will bring him down,you have two options - 1) Either wait for him to stop being so into himself by what the world will teach him. 2) Or if the relationship is strong then you are entitled to ur opinion and you should tell him how he is making you feel, how he has changed, and how he now comes across. Good luck x
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reader, jeena knows101 +, writes (28 June 2008):
I think ur right. He does seem a little egotistical. But u need to tell him how u feel and what he sounds like to u.Let him know that u dont like the new him, u like the old him. Dont ask him to change just let him know.
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