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writes:Hello!I've seen a couple questions on this general topic, but I haven't found any specific answers so I figured I'd just ask by myself.So here's the deal. I've known this guy (he's 15, I'm 17) for the past... let's say two years. Our friendship has gotten REALLY close-knit over the past three months- so close that I now think of him as one of my best friends.I've never talked with him about this; its just something I've considered. Both of us are virgins (I think? He had a girlfriend for a while but I don't think they ever had sex) and I've thought for a long while that I'd rather lose my virginity to someone I trust, not someone I'm dating. This is not to say I don't trust the guys I date. I'd just feel more comfortable around a close friend. Because the thing is, the way I see it, there's more of a chance of some god-awful guy breaking my heart than there is of this guy becoming awkward around me. Plus, I tend to pick douchebags for boyfriends. Plus plus, I'm afraid that in college I'll get thrust into relations that I'd not necessarily be comfortable with, but, considering the fickle-minded person I am, would get into anyway. At least this way I'll know what I'm getting myself into.I hate seeing this as a "getting-it-over-with" thing, because it's not. I'm just wondering, does this seem reasonable? Has anyone ever had sex with a close friend and had it actually work out?Thanks in advance for your input!
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reader, cuzez123  +, writes (3 January 2010):
You have obviously thought your first time sex experience through, which is quite an intelligent thing to do. And yes, best friend relationships have been very succesful in my experience. My advice is, slowly probe him on the subject. Try using one or two hypothetical scenarios and analyse his responses. And even if you are unlucky, he's your best friend and he will understand. I wish you the best of luck in the future and remember, that true love can't exist without friendship.
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