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writes: I'm feeling a little bummed out and have come to the realization that I never really had any true friends. I'm a bit of a pushover, so I was always the friend that they used when they were bored or had no one else in their life, and then got dumped when they found other friends. Some friends drifted away naturally, which isn't so bad. Other friendships ended in a fight- they even came back after a few years and wanted to pretend like nothing happened! I was always someone who would listen to them when they cried or needed someone to talk to, but then they would leave me once again as soon as they were feeling better. I just don't know if I'm the crap person here and not "exciting" or "fun" enough.... or if I just picked **** friends who treated me like garbage. As of right now I'm out of school and it's hard to make new friends. My family tells me to "find new friends" like it's so easy, like I can just go to the "Friend Store" and buy some new ones or something. But I just don't get why I'm not good enough for them to stick around. Also, when I put my foot down and stand my ground, they get upset and claim I'm the mean one. So it's like I'm either a pushover or a b****. I'm to the point where I am happy doing my own thing- I'm a loner and fine with it... (or so I tell myself.) I just want to know- has anyone else gone through this and experienced this? What did you do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denizli  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 I'm experiencing it just now. It has been really hard. I've made new friends and i've got a bestfriend who is also my boyfriend but the people who i thought were my friends before ended up being my worst enemies, idk why that happened. Sometimes i even think it's me the problem but then again i realize i don't find myself to be a bad person, so i guess this happens. How am i dealing with it? Um well i guess there's not a certain way to handle this but i'm just trying to focus on the positive sides out of this situation. People won't always like you, and rather have one or two loyal friends than a hundred of fake people who sooner or later will stab you in the back. The best way to deal with friends loss for me its just not giving a damn about it. Friends and socializing are both necessary but that don't mean u gotta have thousands of friends. I feel good also having just a very few friends and yeah my family also often tells me to make new friends but for some reason that's not a priority for me now. I'm trying to be happy with what i have now.
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