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writes: I am a 69 year old widow for the last couple of years. I have dated a lot of men, and some I really cared for but unfortunately they didn't feel the same.However, I met a man that lives a couple of hours away and I have only seen him twice. We have sent each other about a thousand emails and he said he was looking for a relationship and wanted to settle down now. He was married twice before and each time the women cheated on him, or so he says. Unfortunately he has been involved with sex with several women at a time and his wives the same with men. This seems like something he really enjoys.I am strictly a one-man woman. I cannot see this sex thing, otherwise I have compromised on a lot of things with him. I also attend church and I think he is close to an athiest.I really don't think he is ready for another relationship, as he is a control freak. He said we have to get to know each other more at this time.I need advice on this. I thank you for any information you can give me. Reply to this Question
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reader, caffeinequeen +, writes (9 November 2005):
Since you have met only twice, it is difficult for you to get to know what he means about wanting to settle down.
It is a bit early to ask him if being in a relationship for him, means having an open relationship( being sexual with other partners).
Maybe the open relationship thing is in his past, and he got really sick of the cheating and now wants something serious and exclusive.
Give yourself time to get to know him better and see if you share the same values.
Enjoy his company and the romance, get to know a little bit more about him each time to see if you are compatible.
I wish you good luck.
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