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writes:Dear Agony AuntsI am a sixteen year old girl in my last year at school. About 6 months ago, my friendship with 4 other girls finished over an argument, which was my fault, I do admit. However, it was not a big deal yet it still caused these girls to spread rumours behind my back to the rest of the teens at my school.Now that it has died down, I am so lonely. No one talks to me at school, people are generally unfriendly and make me feel really small. I feel like I am worth nothing cos no one needs me. How do I make friends with them? How do I lose the so called 'mean girl' image? Please help.thanks Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2005): You Don't Need Friends To Be Happy Find Something You Like To Do & go Ahead & do That
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2005): True friends are those who stick by you no matter what and never judge you. Those girls were not your true friends because true friends forgive and forget. Therefore there is no point in making ammends. Stop beating yourself up over "starting it" they added to the situation by starting rumours. Let people know the real you and you will lose the mean girl image. As for the people who are rude to you, they are not worth your time. Just like switching from Jr. High to high school you made new friends, after school is over and you go to college or get into the working force you will make new friends. (Hopefully more mature and accepting.) Keep your chin up.
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reader, susu +, writes (11 September 2005):
some friends should be kicked , cos they are not really friends. what i hate about friends is the fact that u do one thing wron and they are down on you. honey they r not really friends. they are girls who drool over popularity and they are unwanted. show them you dont care busy your self in your studies and before you reliase it will blow over
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (11 September 2005):
 Try your best to succeed, but don’t get down if you meet challenges along the way. It really is true that we learn more from our failures than our successes, so try to look at everything as a learning opportunity and keep a positive attitude. Try hard to make some new friends and do all you can to be a happy person and be nice to all that you meet. A genuine smile and sincere acts of kindness go a long way. Try hard to ignore the girls that are dragging you down. This will be tough at first, but change your self-defeating attitude into a positive, helpful one and pretty soon you will not even be thinking of what they are saying. Girls your age thrive on gossip and shunning others when they don't conform...it's a dog eat dog society in a teen's world. Don't get caught up in that negative trap. All of what you are enduring will take strength and an incredible belief in yourself. Hang in there and it will get better. Take care, hun
Hugs,
Irish
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