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writes:ok... too cut a long story short, i have been with my girlfriend for two and a half years, were lesbians.. we have had a very rough time together, but have pulled through it... the thing is the other night we were having sex and it all felt wrong, the whole being with a woman... i dont get it i have slept with many women and a few men, men dont interest me, and every now and again i get these feelings... please someone help me understand whats going on!! i know im gay, i just dont understand why im experiencing it with this specific partner?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): It could be that you are maybe not entirely comfortable with your sexuality. Like, perhaps you still haven't fully accepted that are a lesbian? That's one possibility.
But you said you are experiencing these feelings with this specific partner, so in that case I think it may be more about the relationship itself than about you. You said you have had a rough time together, but pulled through it. I don't know what happened, but are those problems resolved? Do you feel any anger towards your girlfriend at all? Are there things you would like to say but feel you cannot?
If there are any negative feelings towards her, maybe because of something that may have happened in the past, it could be showing itself in these uncomfortable feelings when you have sex. If there is anything left unresolved, or anything troubling you, then do you think it might help if you tried to talk to her about it? Sometimes clearing the air can improve things, and the feelings you are experiencing might stop.
I hope something here helps. Take care. x
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