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*herrysundae19
writes:My boyfriend goes from nice to mean constantly. It's very annoying. We have stopped going out together, which also is because I'm at my job from 8am to 430pm and he's at work from 3pm to 11pm. So the two days off a week he has off he goes out with his friends. He never asks me to join him and when I ask him to come out with me and my friends he always makes up an excuse. I don't know if it matters but he's a Police Officer, but to me it matters because I find them all the same. I constantly hear oh yeah they are all cheaters and it's easy for me to believe that cause I've dated Police Officers before and those facts are sorta true. He thinks so highly of himself and that he is always right and he is the most wonderful person on this planet and it makes me sick. His mom even tells me he has always been like that and you have to agree with him and then ignore him. Haa don't think so, I make it a point to tell him he is far from perfect! So he tells me yesterday while we are arguing that he does not care about me, but then 2 hours later calls me while he's driving home and acts like nothing ever happened. Now I try calling him once today and no response. Is this a joke or what?? I don't know what my question is to everyone, but just what do you think about all of this????
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): I have been dating a cop for 6 years on and off.always trying to forgive him because he and I have been there for each other and have a true friendship. However our relationship is not functional at all he is a controlling always puts me down and has always lived his life like a single guy. I too have delt with him spending his time off to go out with his friends and never being included but most of them are cops and they are all out cheating and lying . He always has excuses always turns everything around to be my fault he is never wrong and as much as he goes out if I do he freaks out. Has people follow me checks up on me even when we are not dating.they will never change and it only gets worse you will never get a true committment from him. Get out before you invest too much of yourself its not worth it.
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reader, cherrysundae19 +, writes (3 February 2009):
cherrysundae19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your response. I actually just logged into facebook and took a look at his page, which I never do because of what i may find... and I can see from pictures that he has completely been lying to my face. He went to Vegas with two other guys, now why is there 3 girls in the photos along with his 2 male friends. And still no contact from him, we are now finished!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): What do we think about your situation?
Strikes me there are so many negatives to your boyfriend that I wonder why you are still with him.
You can't tell him anything; he clearly prefers the company of his friends on his days off to being with you; tells you - admittedly in the heat of an argument, but that's when the truth is likely to come out, mind, - that he does not care about you. You called him today and got no response - although, to be fair, he COULD have been away from his phone, had it turned off, whatever, but if he hasn't returned your call by now......
All this speaks for itself, and it does not sound good - not to mention that your work schedules are incompatible!
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