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writes:Hey everyone! okay so I have what is a big dilemma for me... anyways... so this guy and I have been talking to for a few months now and we both have told each other that we had feelings for one another. He thought it would be best to wait to start dating until I was 18 (he is 21 and said his morals would not let him at that time...w/e). Since I liked him a lot I figured what's two months time... so my birthday comes and he doesn't even bring up the subject or call me.. he just levaes me a little comment on myspace. He went from telling me he can't wait to see me and can't wait until I visit to hardly talking to me. (he lives 2 hours away at school). Is this just a guy's way of telling me the agreement is off or that there is someone else? I can't seem to figure out what went wrong.... any suggestions? I know I should talk to him about it, but I'm scared that this relationship that I have been waiting for and wanting isn't going to happen, so I'm kind of purposely putting off confronting it to him until I can hopefully get some insight...thanks a million! xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): It sounds to me like he lied to you about not wanting to date till you turned 18. Sounds like that was just an excuse for him to postpone this from happening as long as he could. He was playing games with you. I think he just made that whole story up about his 'morals.' And now that I think about it, when a guy really likes you he wouldn't care about such a tiny age difference. That wouldn't have stopped him.
Look I think that he probably does have a GF or somebody else lined up and perhaps they were having issues and so he knew you liked him and tried to keep you as a back up in case it didn't work out with the other girl.
I definitely DON'T think that he has met someone else since you turned 18 and that is why he no longer is interested. No. I am almost positive that he lied about the whole thing since day one and was just using you as a back up.
Anyways, I wouldn't confront him. I mean if he is capable of doing that to you, then he is also capable of not caring one bit whether you confront him or not. He sounds like a jerk. I would just let that one go and move on. If I were you I would act like I didn't care and like I didn't want him anyways. Don't let his head get any bigger than it probably already is. Don't confront him. But do move on and don't fall for his lines ever again.
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