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writes:Ive been in my relationship now for about 5 months. Things were good in the beginning, but it seems that we have been arguing the whole 5 months. When I first met him, I just got out of a terrible and painful relationship. I had many trust issues, as well as emotional issues. He had been single for 6 years. I waited 4 months before we started dating. We have gotten into alot of fights where he has called me terrible names, and was just a very unpleasent person. I know I should have gotten out a long time ago, but I couldn't. I wanted to try and see if we could fix us. There were still fights, and he always seemed like he wanted to win. So he overpowered me in every way. As of now, I dont know if we are on a break, or we are over. I can't sleep, and I cant focus. I really need to know if a break will help. How can I not make a big deal over the small things to cause a fight. How can I stop being guarded and let down my walls. With me being guarded has caused nothing but problems. Please help me with any advice possible! I'm desperate!
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reader, Princess _008  +, writes (22 September 2010):
i don't think that guy loves you. yes i agree in love there are many ups and downs and surely these fights enhance one's love. but trust me if he really love you he would not try to win the fight. i mean its ok it often happen in anger. however he even called you terrible names. i often have trouble with my boyfriend but he always ignored me when such fight arise. just to keep himself in control. and not to vent out his anger on me by saying things that would definitely hurt me.
i think you should ask for a break up. because one day or another he will ask for a break up and that will hurt much more than it will if you ask for it.
to be able to accept his separation, you must keep yourself busy in some way or another. you can arrange for get-together with your friends. go out for shopping with your friends. try watching some nice films. attend parties. meet new people. and spend most of your time on internet with your friends
Just don't think of him
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